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This Mexican and Filipino Extravagant Wedding Combined Two Cultures | World Wide Wed | Refinery29

This Mexican and Filipino Extravagant Wedding Combined Two Cultures | World Wide Wed | Refinery29

We all went to Catholic school growing up. Catholicism was what we did. This is Keith. That’s Sara. They met in law school and now they’re getting married. Sara’s and Keith’s personalities are like ying and yang; they just compliment each other. Any strength on one side is balanced off by the other side. For me, religion is the experience that you have when you are part of a larger community. Their Filipino and Mexican traditions come from opposite sides of the world. And their Catholic upbringing is sometimes at odds with what they believe, which is why for their wedding, they’re doing things their own way. What was really special to us is to be able to do a ceremony that was distinctly ours and really embodied how we felt about our culture, about our family, about our friends, and what we believed in. Sara and Keith decided to get married in San Miguel De Allende, Mexico, where Sara’s family is from. But they also wanted to incorporate Keith’s Filipino background. Because both Mexico and the Philippines were colonized by Spanish Catholics, they found a lot of the traditions were actually similar. The Mexican Guayabera and the Filipino Barong are traditional white dress shirts worn for special occasions. In San Miguel De Allende, the most special occasion is a Callejoneada. A Callejoneada is a procession held to honor the couple with mariachi, shots of tequila, curious bystanders, and an obligatory donkey. The highlight of the Callejoneada is Las Mojigangas. Mojigangas are born out of Spanish tradition, dating back to the 1600s. They were modeled after religious and aristocratic figures, inspiring wonder and awe. In San Miguel, the puppets are custom-made, taking on a more exaggerated appearance. Currently Hermes is crafting mojigangas to represent the bride and groom. Ceremonial tortillas are a must-have for every wedding in Mexico. The tradition, originated by Otomi Indians in Guanajuato, uses dye from flowers or vegetables to create imprints on the tortillas. A secular ceremony, I think, works well. I like the idea of inclusiveness and having a ceremony that’s really happy and relaxed and enjoyable to all who attend. Although it’s not a Catholic wedding, Keith and Sara are incorporating two traditionally Catholic customs seen in both Mexican and Filipino cultures. El Lazo is a tied rope placed around the couple as they exchange their vows. Shaped like an infinity sign, it symbolizes that the union will last forever. The second tradition is Las Arras, an exchange of 13 coins that, in modern culture, symbolizes Christ and the Twelve Apostles. I think it starts with either they put it into my hands and then I drop all the coins into her hands and then she drops the coins all back into my hands— which makes sense because I’ve been elected the minister of finance in the relationship. Keith and Sara are also embracing a less traditional, more inclusive view of marriage than what the Catholic religion believes. In our faith, it might not be perceived as a right thing that certain people and certain ethnicities and certain sexual orientations should be married but who’s to say that we are the judges of that? The Supreme Court’s decision to undo the judgment against same-sex marriage was something that Keith and Sara couldn’t believe in more. That’s really about marriage and marriage as an institution and just what is this sort of social construct that you’re entering into? And what does it mean to kind of form this union in the literal sense? And what does it mean to ensure that everyone has an opportunity to do that? Their hope is not to be condemned to live in loneliness, excluded from one of civilization’s oldest institutions. They ask for equal dignity in the eyes of the law. The Constitution grants them this right. The decision in that case was such a beautiful description of marriage, the institution of marriage, why people want to be married, and why everyone should have the right to be married. It’s a tradition to buck the tradition. And now family and friends, it is my honor to introduce Keith and Sara Mariano. You may now kiss your wife. Sara really brought something out in him that I had never seen. He always wanted a companion. What Sara brought to him was this sense of who he is now. For Keith and Sara, forging a new path doesn’t mean leaving tradition behind.

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  1. The title and description very misleading. Click-Bait!. This was NOT Catholic Mexican Filipino Wedding. It's not even in a Church and in a Mass. So technically, their marriage is not recognized and blessed by the Catholic Church. The most SAD part is they talked about being Catholic, and so as the Culture for both Mexican and Filipino.

    BUT, I can totally understand why they did it their way. I'm Filipino and married to a Chicana (Mexican Woman, born and raised from California) for 21 years now, We are both Catholic, and are now both devout Catholic. Our kids are raised devout Catholics and both of our cultures and traditions are present at home and in their up bringing. Both of us, have been to each other's countries. Funny that they talked about the clothes but for the wedding, it was abandoned, its all Americanized Also, their perception on marriage was so construed instead of coming to Sacrament of Matrimony. Obviously, both of them are not formed Catholics. Just Culturally Catholics. This is really a secular wedding, so not sure where the whole culture and religion this video is talking about. This is more of a viewpoint to challenge the perception of traditional marriage. They had prioritize their support to Same Sex Marriage, than the teaching of the Church on Marriage.

    I agree with the comment besides showing the Barong and the guy, where is the Pinoy Culture here? In any case, God Bless them both and their family! May God's peace be with them. Praying for them that they find in their hearts and mind, to one day get their marriage blessed or convalidated in the Catholic Church.

  2. As a Catholic…it's pretty insulting to see this called a Catholic wedding. Catholic weddings are distinct in tradition. The sacrament of matrimony is so much more than what these secular weddings could ever represent or embody.

  3. dami niyong reklamo . wala naman tunay na pinoy. lahat tyo kinantot ng mga iabang lahi , pati mga pagkain natin kinuha lang sa spanish . yong adobo? e meron spanish version non

  4. Neither of them are born in Mexico or Philippines 👎🏻
    So they should have just done a basic normal wedding. And the brides mom is white. Soooo?

  5. The mexican and filippino culture are very similar. Everyone needs yo calm down. The coins, laso and the barong are also a filippino tradition in weddings. Just saying

  6. In my opinion as a mexican myself, I don't see how this is a fusion of both filipino and mexican traditions. I see many comments from filipino ppl saying how there was no actual filipino representation in this and as a mexican this wasn't very accurate to even a real traditional catholic mexican wedding either. As I see it, it is more of a white or americanized version of what a filipino/mexican "traditional" wedding would look like

  7. Omg the Felipino people they never say NO they are very positive person all the way I'm this wild life good luck my friend

  8. Why did they feel the need to preach about same sex marriage at their wedding? They wanted everyone to know how hip and inclusive they are. Dumb.

  9. I'm Mexican and I didn't know that Filipino and Mexican culture was similar and the tortilla thing I didn't know we did that but also sorry to all the Filipinos who didn't get to see their culture that much in the video 💜✨💜

  10. Kahit san talaga mga reklamador ng mga Pinoy, putang ina talaga, nakakahiya kau, mga bwisit, nakakahiya mga ugali nyo, tang ina nyo

  11. I never knew about the Otomí tortillas. My grandmother was an Otomí native. Except we're from Hidalgo. I kinda want those tortillas at my wedding now 😍

  12. Fuuck that idiot ruined everything heeyy hello filipino and mexican are similair in cultures it just finished saying and its true .. so its alright and decent wedding first class

  13. Wow! Mi gusta Mexicana porque mi lengua franca es CHAVACANO de Filipinas como se llama Asias Latin City here in Asia. chavacano word are came from Mexico cuando tiempo Guerra Mundial aqui en mi Ciudad. Felicidades 🍾🎉👏👏👏

  14. San Miguel Allende is a beautiful place. This was a great wedding! And the groom is pretty cute lol 😆

  15. I love Mexican traditions … I’m from Guanajuato and when I saw this I knew it looked very familiar .. although I didn’t know some of these traditions I love to learn about them 💖

  16. Hahaha I was like "what is callenada?…" Till you put the name in the screen, callejoneada haha that girl skipped like five letters in the pronunciation

  17. I’m so confused are weddings different in different part of Mexico or something in Mexican and some of these I never heard like the tortilla thing

  18. The coin thingy is kinda similar to filipino tradition,but in the filipino way its pin all over the clothes,or all over the hanging thing of the bride.meaning to many money,goodluck etc.

  19. Misleading title and poor representation of a mixed-themed wedding. The narrator kept repeating that it’s a Mexican/Filipino blend but literally there was just… 1 thing and that was his shirt. No wonder it has such few views, might have something to do with the bad research?

  20. They could of just got married in Los Angeles same thing because I have never heard of the majority of these traditions

  21. This is not Catholic
    -They are just nominal Catholics that's why they don't accept catholic teachings.
    – 4:55 "certain ethnicities" that't not true.
    – Homosexuals cannot marry because that's against divine law.

  22. Honey I’m Mexican and I’ve never heard of this shit my family be throwing them big ass crazy party’s not this stuff

  23. These Mexican traditions are from the Southern Mexico.
    I am from the North side and although we don't do them, this is UNDENIABLY BEAUTIFUL SOUTHERN MEXICAN traditions 😀

  24. I would have never guessed she is Mexican or he is Filipino just by looking at them. Anyway, they are a beautiful couple ❤️❤️❤️

  25. I am today year's old when I found out about these pink tortillas –AND I'm Mexican and parents from GTO…

  26. Very interesting!!!",, ha! Ha!",.. I'm a fourth generation Spanish Filipino", . Viva las islas Filipinas!!",… Viva Mexico!!!",.. Viva Espana!!!",…

  27. Most of these things I’ve never heard of, my family is from the city of Mexico maybe that’s why we don’t often see these traditions 🙁

  28. to every white ass mexican saying they don't recognize these traditions is stupid every region has its own culture and way of doing things its not all the same

  29. If you were able to pronounce Mojiganga, Callejoneada shouldn't have been that difficult, yet you keep butchering it!

  30. The barong tagalog is made of pineapple fabric >>>>>>>

  31. Most of the Mexican traditions they did is just done in San Miguel de Allende. My parents are from Guanajuato and the only things that are similar to the more traditional weddings are the lazo and the arras. San Miguel de Allende is populated by a lot of americans and the tourist are mostly americans that is why the wedding is americanized.

  32. It's kind of amazing to see the similarities between the culture of Mexico and the Philippines, as a Filipino (ethnically & legally). What am I saying? The religion, Roman Catholic; the place of the wedding, San Miguel, heck we even have places named San Miguel here in the Philippines, the small flaglets that I saw, we call them "banderitas" here in the Philippines and you see them at fiestas and traditional weddings. What surprised me was the "Mojigangas" in the Philippines we have the "Higantes" but they have their own festival and they usually don't appear in weddings. Also the obligatory dancing during weddings we also have that in the Philippines. At first glance, it kinda feels indistinguishable the only things that gives it away are the ff.
    1. the donkey
    2. people speak spanish
    3. people look caucasian
    4. mariachi band

    If people are gonna ask where's the Filipino representation like money dance, coconut leaves etc… of the 20 or so weddings I've attended here in the Philippines we don't usually do that anymore. And the beauty of marrying someone of Hispanic culture is like it's kinda like indistinguishable from ours.

    EDIT: I removed "Tequila shots" because there are tequila shots here in the Phils. for some of the more "open-minded" couples.

  33. The primary purpose of marriage is for propagation of the human race. The love and support between the couple is secondary and supports the primary purpose. "Same sex marriage" is not marriage because it impossible for two individuals with the same sex to naturally produce children.

  34. For everyone saying this isn't Mexican it's only in some parts of Mexico plus this "Mexican" family is not very Mexican. I say that because they are Americanized and seem like they're 3rd Generation Mexican Americans

  35. Las arras (golden coins) also represent the equal sharing of the finances. Handling the coins on to one another, what's yours is mine and what is mine is yours.

  36. This is an Americanized Mexican version of a wedding she’s I believe ( an interpretation im seeing I may be wrong) a third generation Mexican. I respect that she wants to continue the tradition but our Mexican culture isn’t a show. And I feel like this is what is done. As a first generation Mexican woman who’s first language is Spanish and was raised always going to Mexico and learning the culture and living in a rancho and a pueblo there is nothing Mexican about this wedding besides the colors, mariachi, tequila. There’s so much more to show and if you’re going to make a video on a wedding please show a first gen so you can see a deeper meaning of what a Mexican wedding is


    We have both Mexicans and Filipinos rightfully complaining about the lack of Filipino background and the a watered down Mexican wedding in this video. But we do not have enough traditional Catholics responding to their catholic traditions claim, so to let me do the honor. As a devout Catholic, in response to the couple, you both claim to care about your catholic faith or “religion” as you call it but obviously lack knowledge of what it truly means to be a catholic. Like people are saying, there isn’t really anything truly Mexican, Filipino, or catholic about this. The Catholic Church isn’t against interracial marriages as this guy assumes but they are against same sex marriage for a reason, based on what Jesus himself taught about marriage, and because it goes against God’a natural law (will). Since you two chose not to get married within the Church, and if you truly care about the faith, you would know that your marriage is still considered invalid and therefore are living in the constant state of mortal sin if you are cohabiting and having relations.


    This marriage could have totally been truly catholic, Mexican, and Filipino. I’m Mexican and my girlfriend is Filipino. We are both truly catholic and already know that this ain’t it. Praying for this couple!

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