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The Unexpected Beauty Of A Mormon Wedding | World Wide Wed | Refinery29

The Unexpected Beauty Of A Mormon Wedding | World Wide Wed | Refinery29


This is Melissa and this is Sergio. They’re Mormon. Mormon is a nickname for members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. Marriage and family are important because they believe family can be together forever in the afterlife. An important part of creating an Eternal Family is getting married in a temple. I’d say the greatest things that I prioritize in my life is looking for opportunities to serve God and that’s something I can do with Sergio and that’s also something he wants. He was a very steady friend and we’d both been in and out of lots of relationships that always ended. Sergio would always make comments like, “When are you going to realize that we should just date?” And I would just laugh because I was like, “Oh, we’re friends.” Finally last summer, he asked me, “So when do we just get married?” And for the first time my response was, “Wait, what if that actually worked?” After the age of 16, dating in the Mormon religion is encouraged but there’s no sex until marriage. 66% of Mormon adults are married compared with only 52% of U.S. adults overall. Mormons are also considered more fertile. They have 3.4 children compared to the national average of 2.1. Melissa and Sergio believe that they will be united with their family in Heaven. In order to participate in Temple ordinances, including for a wedding, each member has to be recommended— meeting with a local ecclesiastical leader, your Bishop, counseling with them and meeting the various requirements that establish worthiness and maturity to understand what you’re taking upon yourself when you enter a temple. To marry or attend a ceremony in the Temple, you have to follow a bunch of rules including: being a member of the church, abstaining from premarital sex, being free from drugs and alcohol, paying 10% of your income to the Church, and wearing temple garments. Temple garments are worn by all adults, including Sergio and Melissa, as personal reminders of the promises they’ve made to God. They’re worn at all times except for exercising and bathing. Immediately after Sergio and I got engaged, we realized our family and our close friends would not be able to be at our marriage ceremony. I talked to my Dad and he expressed that he was sad that he wouldn’t be able to be there. You got two intelligent people coming together and forging their way through life. A few weeks later he said he was going to try to be there. I was like, “Uh, Dad, you know what that means? That’s a lot of sacrifices.” He has—and relatives—when we get together sometimes will have a glass of wine and that’s part of the health code is that we don’t drink alcohol. There’s an undergarment that we wear to remind us of the promises that we make when we go to the Temple. So he started to wear those. He said he was sure he wanted to do it. I’m really grateful that he’s going to be able to be there. Oh my gosh! Ahh! I needed to come and see you before your actual wedding. So I’m like, “Ahh!” I don’t feel stressed. I feel I’ve waited a long time for this and I also know that she’s the best person for me. Yay, let’s go! The wedding ceremony is the most sacred ritual in Mormonism and isn’t allowed to be filmed or spoken of in detail outside the Temple. This can make the wedding, or Sealing Ceremony, seem mysterious or shrouded in secrecy. But to Mormons, it’s just sacred, not secret. After the 30 minute ceremony, Sergio and Melissa emerge from the Temple, their souls sealed together forever. Seeing you come out of the Temple, I didn’t realize how emotional I would be. Congratulations. (Guests cheering) Through prayer, lots of communication, and by following the rules of the church, Melissa and Sergio are on their way to creating their Eternal Family.

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  1. Look at this beautiful wedding – doesn’t get to see the ceremony/ anything about the wedding really just rules Mormons have to follow

  2. For everybody else who doesn’t get recommended or don’t live near a temple oh well it’s the gym for you. (no joke. Where my sister was married you couldn’t get married in the chapel. It had to be the gym)

  3. I would love to see a wedding ceremony by two people who practice some form of witchcraft or Asatru. Many of them have handfastings, like I plan to have when I do a fancy elopement one day, and they can be stunning ceremonies.

  4. I’m an LDS Mormon and most of my extended family isn’t Mormon. I know lots of people who have the similar situation as me. They get sealed in the temple and will have a ring ceremony at the reception and have their bishop explain what a temple marriage is and why it’s important. I will do the same when I get married 🙂

  5. I’m ex Mormon and this shows only the good parts of the church, there’s so much more to it so don’t get exited about all the fun stuff, it’s not that great soo. Search up new name Noah on you tube it’s creepy. ITS A CULT.

  6. The truth divides. Did you know the Lord Jesus came to earth to divide families. To divide families, even though it causes conflict and pain, is God’s will.
    Jesus Divides Families
    Do not suppose that I have come to bring peace to the earth.divide families I did not come to bring peace, but a sword. For I have come to turn ‘a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law — a man’s enemies will be the members of his own household.’ (Mat 10:34-36)

    Why is that clear truth about the Lord Jesus Christ dividing families avoided? Because people generally want to preach and hear about a loving, all-accepting gracious Savior, who smiled and preached easy to receive teachings with little or no demands placed on them. They want to believe in a Savior like that, a mythical god, not one which divides families!

    Why Jesus Came To Divide Families
    Why does Jesus divide families? The God of truth (Isa. 65:16) is the God of the Bible. Since truth divides, then Jesus would naturally divide his followers away from those who reject and hate God’s truth, even one’s natural family members. Remember, Jesus divides families:

    Do you think I came to bring peace on earth? No, I tell you, but division. From now on there will be five in one family divided against each other, three against two and two against three. They will be divided, father against son and son against father, mother against daughter and daughter against mother, mother-in-law against daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law against mother-in-law.” (Luke 12:51-53)

    Those same truth rejecters become enemies to the truth lovers as they resist and persecute the follower of Jesus. That test places the Christian with a divided family in a position where he must count the cost to follow Jesus unashamedly! Is he at that point where he must decide if he is going to please God and remain faithful to him or his truth-rejecting natural family? If he returns as a dog to his vomit to win the favor of his spiritually dead family he will lose his salvation.

    Jesus Came To Divide – NOT Bring Peace On Earth
    To be worthy of Jesus and eternal life, one must side with God’s truth even though it divides his own family. That truth is vital for especially new converts to Christianity when they are tested by family division. Remember: Jesus came to divide as a test and is basic to true conversion!

  7. I'm a Christian, but I don't believe God would want you to keep family members and your dad from coming to the wedding…………

  8. I'm sorry pretty much everyone no matter their religion believes they are with there family and spouse after death not just mormons

  9. I may not be an active mormon member anymore but growing up in the LDS comunity has made me into the person I am today, a good and intelligent person. They teach you many valuable lessons how to live your best life possible. I really respect the religion and their family values are what makes them genuine.

  10. Mormon a "nickname" I don't think Mormon would be too happy telling him he's just a "nickname"
    Mornings aren't more furtile they just don't take birth control…ever!
    Don't forget the bonus "you get to be good and goddesses of your own planet!!! Once you past the fact they believe Satan and Jesus are brothers and once your unsaved family die you get to baptize them morning even if they don't want it your good to go!

  11. Sacred and secret is not biblical. Jesus said everything should be tested in the light. Anything that is contrary to the Word is a false doctrine.

  12. I'm not sure many people know this, but the words in the wedding ceremony in the temple never once use the word "love." They talk about procreating. No mention of love. Look up NewNameNoah if you want to watch it for yourself.

  13. Since when was "Mormon" a "nickname"? I had no idea there are special undergarments and I also had no idea the Mormon wedding was so sacred. So when the short sleeved shirt men come into your home to teach you about their faith how does that work if only Mormons are allowed in the temple?

  14. I do not understand how such a beautiful story of love can receive more critical comments than positive comments. We live in a world full of different cultures, sub-cultures, and beliefs. We fight for inclusion, we fight for rights, but we keep breaking each other because of different choices in life. More negative comments are just gonna fill this world with more hate. Spread love instead, and embrace positive love stories like this!

  15. The fact that I'd have to get married without so many of my family members is mind boggling. What religion says that thats important. God isn't concerned about ceremony or rules. He is forgiving, if you have had premarital sex, done drugs or drank he doesn't care, he doesn't require things in order to visit his temple. He just requires that we ask for forgiveness.

  16. I've always thought this temple was beautiful and have I always wished of getting married in it, but now that I know it's a Mormon temple and know of all the requirements they have I'm totally put off.

  17. I've seen a lot of comments and questions about family and friends not being able to attend if they aren't members, so I'd like to try and clear it up as much as I can. The family and friends can come to the wedding, they just can't go inside the Temple and attend the ceremony. Same goes for members who just have not had their endowments or been married, they can't go into the ceremony. But another option is you can have a civil wedding so all your family and friends can be there and then you can be sealed/married in the Temple about a year later. Hopefully that clears some things up! 🙂

  18. so non Mormon families cannot attend I see, what about being with your family for all eternity? yea right

  19. I know this video was made before the re-emphasis, but thought I’d mention that members of our church prefer the Nickname “Mormon” not be used to refer to us. The easiest way to say it is to call the church “The Church of Jesus Christ” and the members “Latter-day Saints”.
    Sorry, thanks ;P

  20. I grew up Mormon, but I left because Im gay and I plan on marrying the love of my life, who is a beautiful woman.

  21. I am a mormon almost here at the comment section do not believe in God i know what is the true church if you do not believe do not express what is youre feeling about our church and u and we believe in God Have Faith in God Repent all if youre sins

  22. Sergio is clearly a bitch. BTW the Temple ceremony is BS. Remember when the lady described all of the rules? I was breaking practically all of them and the local Bishop couldn't discern that I was doing that stuff. The LDS Church literally says that Bishops can and will do that in the Temple interview. By the way NewNameNoah has posted the ceremony online so you can see it. BTW if non Temple worthy Mormons can't see the ceremony then it's secret by definition. Also, you get a new name when you go in the temple.

  23. Mormon kids aren’t encouraged to “ date “. Their encouraged to hang out with different girls each time with other people. Because the adults still want the hidden secret of children polygamy to still go on. I grew up LDS, and most of the information in this video is sugarcoated to not sound as bad. The church is a cult and that’s why it’s not allowed to be spoken of, there’s nothing about talking about your wedding. It is very secret, none of the lying bull sack stuff in the temple is sacred. It’s sad how people believe this. I hope one day my fellow Mormons will understand.

  24. Just an honest question here because I don’t know much, but wouldn’t it be easy for someone to just lie about doing all the things needed? How are people like “vetted”? Do bishops just trust that what they are saying is true?

    Once again no hate, just wondering.!

  25. I love the sacredness of the temple. In an era where everything is for the public eye and you can’t get in a mote of privacy, it’s lovely that there are some places and practices that respect that.

  26. What I was told in a movie that mormons do it all the time before marriage and they don’t use protection ig not

  27. Wowowow! Thank you Refinery for this wonderful video! If people make videos about "Mormon" weddings, they're usually very judgmental and try to make it seem creepy and weird. This is very unbiased and shows the beauty behind our weddings. Thank you! <3

  28. Imagine the kind of religion where you are not allowed to attend the wedding ceremony of your own daughter…

  29. I read a book years ago by a woman who left the church after divorcing her husband. Her wedding, in a Mormon temple, was something! She was given secret underwear to wear underneath her gown. The men wore chef's hats and the woman wore white robes with a green apron in front. She got pulled through a veil and got a new name but it was a secret. Weird! After the book was published she got excommunicated.

  30. I grew up in Utah as a non Mormon and was abused daily!!! By Mormons. I still am traumatized and deeply scared by the bigoted intolerant hatefull hurtful behavior I was subject to. I’m really curious how loving Jesus can make you abuse others

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